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Porter: More men needed to fill the gap in daycare

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Porter, Catherine
Publication Date: 
13 Mar 2010

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What's most striking about Beatty Buddies Daycare is the men.

Big strapping men.


Go to a graduation ceremony at George Brown College and you'll
see 92 per cent of the early childhood education diplomas are handed to
women. The four-year degrees are even worse: 98 per cent of the
graduates are female.

Overwhelmingly, women raise our children.

Beatty Buddies is an exception. One-third of the staff here are men.

I visited twice to see them in action. It convinced me every
childcare should have male workers - both for the kids and for their
mothers. Male childcare workers, I think, are the answer to much
unfinished feminist business.

Lisa Winters, the centre's managing director, lays out the obvious
differences between male childcare givers and female ones. They play
more physically. They lift kids up to see things on the wall. They
bring out a football in the yard, rather than heading to the monkey

"They think of things women generally wouldn't put in the program," she
says, pointing to the hockey net and goalie gear in the room's drama


The patriarch of the clan, Donovan Wilton, has worked here for
15 years. He is a professional musician. During his circle time, he
plays Rolling Stones and Beatles songs on his guitar for the kids to
bounce and race around to.
How important all this is becomes painfully clear when they all sit back down.

They are only four years old. But already, they separate
themselves - girls in dresses, sparkly shoes and a pink tutu to one
side, boys in sloppy shirts and sneakers to the other.

"You often see boys sitting in a circle, rolling their eyes
around and looking off at the sky," Winters says. "Look at how engaged
they are here. Boys are like puppies. They have to be playing and

The Toronto District School Board is looking at ways to boost
boys' achievement in grade schools. Why not start earlier - at daycare?

After the initial shock of seeing men in a child-care centre,
the most obvious thing is how little they differ from their female
coworkers. They set out crafts, serve meals, read stories, cuddle away
tears, change diapers.

That, I think, is even more powerful.

These men are breaking the steadfast stereotypes that bubble up
on Statistics Canada reports: no matter how women flood law and medical
schools, we are the nurturers and homemakers.

Years down the road, will Liam's wife thank his parents for sending him
to a place where he learned - by osmosis - that men clean up and push
strollers? I'm betting yes.


Child-care workers make on average $30,000 a year, $26,000 less
than the average elementary school teacher in Ontario. That's a clear
deterrent to anyone, men or women.

There's something to be said about critical mass, too. The more
men who become caregivers, the more likely the men in Parliament are
likely to take the field seriously.

Winters didn't set out to recruit male caregivers. She simply
hired the best, she says. They drew one another, finding comfort in
some shared hockey talk amid all the girlie chatter.

But maybe there should be a concerted effort to get more men into the
field. The European Union has set a target of 20 per cent male
child-care workers by 2015. Why don't we?

The results might just surprise us all.

"In the early days of feminism, we wanted to be like men. That
was a mistake," says [Judy] Rebick, a professor of social justice and
democracy at Ryerson University.

"What's needed in the world is what women are stereotypically good at: more loving, more compassionate, more nurturing...

"If men spend more time with children, they'd be more like that," she says.

- reprinted from the Toronto Star